A Gentleman’s Haven

What are the characteristics of an ideal man?

There are many different worldly opinions on this, and many of them are misguided.

Today I wish to share with you the Truth! The truth that, we women need you. I Njeri Muchunu, need you. We cannot make it without you. Truth is factual and original and no matter what or how people want to look at it, Truth is original and a standard by which all things exist.

Many men don’t feel like they are wanted by us women anymore. We are constantly saying to you, I don’t need your car, I don’t need your money etc. The truth of the matter is that we need you. We truly need you.

It is not easy for a man to know how to be a man in this day and age. Men have defined manhood by the various roles they have fulfilled for their families. We have a male in crisis because the man does not understand what it means to be a man.

The roles are now gone.

Today, the man brings home the bacon but the woman owns the pig. What do you do when your woman is making more money than you? Men don’t know what to do with that and the man feels this crisis inside.

Women are leaning hard on you men. You can never do anything right, they say, “you are just like your dad”, they say, “you can never succeed at anything – you are a loser; you can’t even take care of your children; you can’t take care of your wife“; they keep pushing….how long will they push, assault you? They take delight in lying on you, they curse you…but I am here to tell you today, find rest even though they try to destroy you.

Men don’t feel the power of self-confidence anymore and that’s why they are not even sure whether they are men anymore. Men work harder today than their forefathers did and yet they cannot feel the pride of being a provider and protector. Women are threatening you and telling you if you don’t do what I say I will leave you; I will kick you out! Men don’t feel appreciated, respected or secure.

We women also need your help too because we are destroying your masculinity.

I understand that men are angry – and this anger is deeply concealed. Many of you men are angry at your father’s – those who were there but you could not talk to, go to for answers as to what it means to be a man and your anger comes out in frustration and frustration manifests as self-hatred and self-hatred as depression. Most men are depressed and quietly carry their anger and this ends up showing up in excessive drinking, adultery, domestic violence, resentment of their wives; and this results in social abandonment and men give up on society because there seems to be no hope.

This is what is happening in Kenya today. Men then abdicate their role as the patriarchs and they leave because there is too much pain. Let me tell you, even finding God does not solve this problem for men – I mean how many of you know pastors who are beating their wives, or cheating on their wives, have 5 others kids out there….

I believe that the number one challenge to the male is his identity crisis. The average man is confused about his manhood, masculinity, and sexuality. He doesn’t have a clear definition of what a man is supposed to be. Some men have confused their cultural, social, and traditional roles with the definition of manhood. However, this has proven to be one of the major causes of the problem because, as the roles change, so does a man’s image of himself.

In order for you male man to live well, you must respond correctly and the first step is recognizing you need help. I am aware that this is very difficult for the male to admit especially in our culture – culture says that asking for help is a sign of weakness. You and I need not be so concerned about who approves or disapproves of us, but we should always remember that God’s approval is what counts. And remember, those whom God approves are approved indeed.

This session is for mature men, leaders, influencers who want to make things happen. The few men committed to leaving a legacy by leading themselves. Those men who are saying I don’t know and I am ready to learn. I want to be counted for something. I want to be the Leader who God created me to be and I understand that for me to do that, I have to set aside my pride, my beliefs and everything I thought I knew in order to be the change that I want to see.

Join us on the 8th of November 2019, male man, and together we can unpack and get a full understanding what it means to be a man with a Purpose leading in a patriarchal society and living in prosperity……because YOU MATTER!


Friday, November 8th
07:00 AM – 10:00 AM
Norfolk Hotel